Address terms are keigo-adjacent judgment: they mark intimacy, formality, and uchi/soto (in-group / out-group) as much as verb forms do.
僕 vs わたし / あなた in meetings
僕 can feel casual or gendered depending on scene; わたし is the safer default in formal talk. あなた is “polite” in textbooks but often awkward to a named colleague in a meeting — prefer the name + title, or omit the pronoun.
Letter addressing: 様 / 先生 / 御中
For a teacher as a person, ○○先生 is usual; stacking 先生御中 is odd (御中 is for organizations). ○○様 works for many adults; match the institution’s habit.
Own parents in formal talk: 父・母
In formal scenes, referring to your own parents as 父・母 (not お父さん／お母さん) is the classic humble/neutral outside-facing habit — again a convention of stance, not coldness.
Phone: 田中先生はおりません?
Own boss to outsiders: 田中, not 田中部長
When treating Manager Tanaka as uchi toward a client, 田中 or 部長の田中 marks in-group; 田中部長 still elevates him as if he were soto. Psychological resistance to “bare name” is normal — 弊社の部長 / うちの部長 can avoid the name while staying uchi. This is not rudeness to your boss; it is outside-facing stance.